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Emotional Test

TRAITS and QUALITIES
of a LITTLE CHILD

AFFECTIONATE:

We are born with a natural craving for our skin to be touched. Little children need to be cuddled, need to be allowed to sit on their parents’ laps, and need to feel the warmth of their parents’ embrace. Every child needs affection to know it is OK. Affection allows a child to feel connected to others and valued in the family.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am affectionate and find it natural to wrap my arms around others in a warm embrace; I can accept the same in return from others. I have an easy time reaching out and touching others. I like connecting with others and I make friends easily. I know I am OK. I am accepting of others and their differences.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:
I recoil or freeze when someone reaches out to touch me. I tend to be reserved, reticent, and unfriendly. I compare myself with others. I notice others’ faults and look for what is wrong with them. I am more comfortable being standoffish, aloof, and withdrawn. I like to keep a safe distance from others. I am afraid or concerned about my personal space being violated.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

COURAGEOUS:

A little child is born with the ability to go where angels fear to tread. For this kind of courage to grow and flourish, a child needs to live in a home where it feels safe and protected.
A child feels secure if it knows what to expect from the adults around it. Clear guidelines and structure in a child’s daily activities give it consistency and lets it know what is expected of it. With a secure foundation, a child can bravely face whatever life throws at it. If a child feels safe to be itself and grow, courage also flourishes.

Emotionally healthy response:
I courageously deal with the daily challenges of life. It is easy for me to bravely face confrontation head on. I am able to stand up for myself with honor and dignity. I am confident I have whatever it takes to overcome any catastrophe that may happen. I face my own inner fears. I am a self-starter. I have confidence in myself and my abilities. I fight for people, ideas, and causes that are important to me.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I often feel discouraged and become overwhelmed with daily struggles. I am afraid and anxious about most of the challenges of life. I am apprehensive about and dislike change. I feel weak and spineless and avoid confrontations. I often lack guts to do what I know is the right thing to do. I tend to manipulate others to get my needs met. I feel unmotivated and I usually procrastinate.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

CURIOUS with a sense of WONDER:

Curiosity with a sense of wonder is the necessary spark of life and energy of a child. A child’s curiosity and wonder propels it to explore beyond itself and its boundaries. This spark of life and energy gives a child the excitement and drive to seek to understand others, itself, and the world.

Curiosity with a sense of wonder opens a child to the possibilities of life and gives it the ability to be teachable.

Emotionally healthy response:

I have the curiosity to move and expand beyond my horizons. I view life as an adventure to be lived to the fullest. I have a sense of the awesomeness of the universe and a wonder about everything around me. I am excited and inspired by the discoveries I make about the world, others, God, and myself. I feel driven to understand the mysteries and miracles of life. I am interested in what is happening within me, around me, and in the world at large. Each day has something new to offer.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I see life as a problem to be solved or a burden to bear. I am usually indifferent or apathetic toward the details of life. I am afraid of taking risks. I feel uninspired and bored with my career, relationships, and/or myself. I see myself as a dull person. I feel boxed in and usually in a rut. It is easy to abuse drugs and/or alcohol or I wonder if I do abuse them.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

EMOTIONALLY RESPONSIVE:

The ability to have and display emotions is unique to the human species. A child comes into this world able to express emotions from one end of the spectrum to the other. Emotions are what give life and value to the child’s existence.
The two emotions that tug at our human heartstrings the most are sorrow and joy. A child is drawn to others by those emotions. It delights in another’s joy and laughter. It’s storehouse of compassion and nurturing is opened by another’s weeping and sorrow.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am able to appropriately experience and express the full range of emotions. I am able to feel specific emotions, distinguish one from another, and label them. I am able to laugh often and genuinely. I see the funny side of life and also allow myself to weep and shed tears when I am sad or sorrowful. I am usually in control of my emotional state and can decide how I want to react to life, whether it be with laughter or with weeping.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I suppress or stuff my emotions. I am usually serious, sober, stoic, and uptight. I am afraid to be happy and joyous or do not seem to know how. I have a difficult time recognizing what emotion I am feeling: sadness, anger, hurt, fear, joy, or excitement. I usually retreat into myself for emotional protection. I maintain a rigid control over my emotions. I feel frantic inside, as if I am going to lose it, or I lose control easily and go berserk. I am afraid if I start crying, I will never stop.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

FLEXIBLE and RESILIENT:

A child has a natural flexibility that allows it to adapt to new experiences and circumstances. A child also has a resilience that allows it to bounce back from whatever life presents to it.
Flexibility gives a child the eagerness to try different ways of doing things. Resilience gives a child the endurance and tenacity to survive not only daily challenges, but also catastrophes and traumas.

Emotionally healthy response:
I am able to bounce back after having failed. I am willing to try different ways of doing things without having to know the outcome in advance. I am teachable no matter what age. I am able to adapt to new experiences and new circumstances. I have the tenacity to keep trying even when a part of me wants to give up. I have resilience that enables me to bend with challenges. I know I could survive and thrive even if I lost all the important people in my life.
My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I feel defeated in the face of failure. I am intolerant and uncompromising. I get discouraged, lose heart, and want to give up when everything goes wrong. I feel I need to manipulate to get my way. I have difficulty cooperating and tend to be rigid, stiff, and unyielding in my point of view. I need to win. I resist change. I feel as if I will break like a twig if I am bent too far. I am devastated at the loss of anyone important in my life.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

HOPEFUL:

A child’s heart is a wellspring of hope. With hope a child looks forward with anticipation at the world and its life. Hope is the element that makes a child feel that anything can be achieved and that everything is possible. Hope is something that springs eternal within a child. It allows a child to feel limitless in the possibilities of life and allows it to see others as limitless too.

Hope helps a child to dream. It gives a child a positive outlook on itself, its capabilities, and what it can achieve. Hope is the core ingredient that keeps a child searching for an answer to a question or a solution to a problem.

Emotionally healthy response:

I know that no matter how bad things look right now, they are going to get better. The future will be better than the past. With the right tools I can do anything. Anything I put my mind to I can do. For every problem there is a solution. I spend time in introspection to renew the wellspring of hope within myself. I believe in myself. I believe in the goodness of others. I wake up each morning wondering what this new day will bring.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I get depressed easily. I expect life to be tough. The future looks no better than the past. When I look inside, I don’t see any answers. I have self doubt about what I am able to achieve. Problems seem to grow while the solutions seem to evade me. I don’t trust others to be there for me. I dread getting up each day. I dread what I’m going to have to face each day. I feel overwhelmed and discouraged with life.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

HUMBLE:

Humility is at the heart of a child. It is born without airs, without vanity, without an inflated self-importance. It has a down-to-earth and unpretentious nature. It is unaffected by titles, degrees, or wealth. A little child is devoid of haughtiness and behaves in an unassuming manner. A child has a willingness to please and easily accommodates the needs of others.
Humility allows a child to ask questions and be open to the answers. This quality allows a child to be yielding and teachable. It also gives rise to a child being charitable and thoughtful of others.

Emotionally healthy response:

I see life from a realistic point of view. I am accommodating of others’ needs. In a disagreement, I yield to the other when I see they are right. I am respectful to everyone, no matter what their rank, education, or level of wealth is. I am a down-to-earth person. I connect with people, where they are at the moment. I see everyone as having equal value.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I feel I am superior to most people. I have been told I am arrogant and egotistical. I feel rebellious towards authority. I resist accepting new information unless it comes from someone with clout. I like power for powers sake. I am usually right and need to have the last word in an argument. I know what it takes to get what I want. I tend to be pushy and aggressive. I am brash and condescending. I manipulate.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

IMAGINATIVE:

One of the foundational traits a child possess is imagination. A child’s imagination allows it to deal with life’s struggles and challenges in a hopeful and optimistic way. Imagination allows a child to find innovative ways of solving its problems.
A child’s incredible imagination allows it to be able to create something out of nothing. Its imagination allows it to come up with possibilities that have not yet been created.
It is through the human imagination that each thought is transformed into reality. Every invention now in existence was first just a creative thought in someone’s imagination.

Emotionally healthy response:

I have a good imagination. I am resourceful and look for the possibilities in everything. I daydream and then turn my dreams into reality. I know it is not the material things I gather around me that are the “riches of life,” but the experiences I have in life. I have a vision for my life and have a daily plan for pursuing this vision. I see myself as having a basket full of tools to help me achieve anything I can imagine, or I have the ability to find the tools I need.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I feel daydreaming is a waste of my time. I have few exciting thoughts. I view life as dull and boring. I often feel blocked and see few possibilities. I get stuck and bogged down in the tiny details of everyday living. I feel inadequate or overwhelmed with challenges. I feel as if I am little and inconsequential. Life is a struggle. At the extreme, I feel life is futile, and suicide seems the best alternative.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

INNOCENT and NAIVE:

A sweet part of a child’s charm and attraction is its innocence and naiveté. These two qualities give a child simplicity and purity of heart. The spirit of innocence and naiveté allows a child to be untarnished and unsullied by experiences.
Because of a child’s innocence and naiveté, it can be frank, candid, and honest. Innocence and naiveté are major ingredients that allow a child to be teachable. These qualities allow it to ask questions and be open to new information.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am untarnished and unsullied by the experiences of life. I feel pure in heart and spirit. I am frank and open in my approach to life, others, and myself. I am able to say it like it is without guile. I am honest about who I am and what I feel. I am able to enjoy life and all that each day brings to me. Life is fun. Life is sweet.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I am calloused and hardened by the experiences of life. I feel bitter about the cards I have been dealt or the family in which I was born. I feel life is not fair. I am cynical and sarcastic about life and/or the good fortunes of others. I am often abrupt and abrasive. I am too judgmental. I see myself as a bad person. I guard my heart and keep my emotions to myself. Life is hard.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

KINDHEARTED:

A child is naturally kindhearted. It is tender and gentle with others. This quality allows a child’s heart to be warm and open to the needs of others. It fills a child with compassion for the hurts and wounds of others. It helps a child see the goodness in others and expect the best from them.
Kindheartedness allows a child to be sensitive, sympathetic, and concerned about the feelings of others. It is the part of the child that gives it a generous heart and an open soul.

Emotionally healthy response:

My heart goes out to others who are hurting. I am concerned about others’ needs. I give easily. I have a generous heart. I am thoughtful and considerate of others. I am kind to myself. I am sensitive about the feelings of those around me. I care about what people feel and think. I call and check on others to see how they are doing.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I feel others are here to serve me. I give only to people who give to me. I don’t let others’ feelings get to me. I am tough and harsh on myself. I am tightfisted when it comes to spending money. I have little time to share with others. I keep a cap on my feelings. I might be a bit difficult. I stay to myself. I tend to be demanding. I let others take care of me. I need other people, but I don’t want them to need me.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

LOVING and LOVABLE:

Being loving and lovable is the most important of all the childlike traits. This trait establishes the foundational building block of a child’s emotional health. The strength and stability of this foundation holds the key to a child’s development into maturity.
Love is the greatest and deepest need a child has. But for a child to be able to love and be lovable towards others, it must first be loved. In the process of loving a child, the parent demonstrates the value, worth, and preciousness of the child. To whatever degree the child experiences this love, the child’s storehouse of love is filled. The child is then able to release its own storehouse of love out to others.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am lovable. I am loving towards myself and loving to others as well. I love others unconditionally and without strings. I have concern and compassion for the welfare of others. I feel nurtured and am able to nurture others. I like who I am. I am able to accept myself for who I am, my faults included. I am able to accept others for who they are. I enjoy myself whether I am alone or with others. I see everyone as having importance and value.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I am co-dependent and need someone to cling to. I have addictive or compulsive behaviors. When I do nurture others I tend to over-mother and smother. I am narcissistic, I am the center of the universe, and everything is about me. I feel empty, apathetic, and depressed without someone in my life. I feel rejected and as if I do not belong anywhere. I feel I am not good enough. I do not really like who I am and fear others do not like me either.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

OPEN and HONEST:

A child is born an open book. It is open and honest with every part of its existence and being. It openly and honestly expresses who it is, how it feels, what it wants, and where it wants to go.
Being open and honest allows a child to be totally and completely true to its authentic self. These characteristics not only give a child freedom to be who it truly is, but are also the springboard for a child to grow and mature as a person and to develop its talents and skills.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am honest about how I feel and who I think I am. I eagerly search for my talents and work at developing my skills, so I can use them. I am open about my mistakes and strive to learn from them. I acknowledge my faults and can ask for help with them. I know what I want in life and take steps to achieve it. I take responsibility for who I am and what I do.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I am cautious about sharing my life with others. I hide my mistakes or make excuses for them. I blame others for how my life is going. I keep my opinions to myself. I guard my heart and my emotions. I sometimes wonder who I am and why I am here. I doubt I have anything to offer others. I keep others at arms-length. I live in fear that I might be found out for the fraud I am. It feels safer to not wish for something than wish and then fail.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

OPTIMISTIC:

A child’s optimism is a key to the characteristic that is called “childlike faith.” Optimism allows a child to search for the “pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.” Optimism is a core part of a child’s being which holds the foundation that is essential for learning.
With optimism a child sees the world as a friendly place. This view of the world allows a child to be open to all the possibilities life has to offer. Optimism allows a child to look on the bright side of things, so it notices the things that are going right. It gives a child enthusiasm, keeps its spirits high, fills its heart with hope, and clears its mind to be bright and alert. Optimism allows the child to see the glass half full.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am optimistic and look on the bright side of life. I am cheerful and enthusiastic about daily living. I live life with a sense of anticipation and expectation of good things to come. I view the world as a friendly place and know anything is possible. I not only see the best in things, but also actively look for the best and expect the best.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I am pessimistic about life and have lost hope of receiving the best out of it. I feel discouraged and depressed about what life has to offer me personally. I feel revengeful and spiteful. I feel like giving up, because what is the use of trying. I see the world as an ugly and gloomy place. I feel I have to constantly be vigilant and on guard. I am wary and watchful for those out to get me. I am anxious and cautious about what might be around the next corner.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

PLAYFUL and SPONTANEOUS:

Playfulness of a child reveals the lighter side of life and allows the child to be lighthearted and not take itself, problems, and the world too seriously. Spontaneity is the lifeblood of playfulness in a child.
Playfulness and spontaneity allow a child to enjoy pure pleasure and delight in the moment. Playfulness allows a child to try out different roles in life, to experience them and see how they fit. Spontaneity gives a child the ability to change directions and go where its creativity takes them. These qualities are part of a child’s foundation for later experiences in life.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am fun-loving, playful, and spontaneous. I view life as a game to be played to the fullest. I am able to have fun and enjoy activities with pure pleasure and delight. I am able to spend free time in unstructured activities. I am able to live fully in the moment as if that moment were all there was in life. I interact with others in a good-natured way, teasing and joking. I am free to be myself in any circumstance. I have an air of mischievousness about me.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I have to maintain control and structure even at the cost of having fun. I view life as hard work. I feel I need to be sober and serious to be mature and grown up. I feel I need to calculate and analyze my actions. I have an aggressive drive to win at all cost. I often live in the past without much hope for the future.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

TRUSTING:

A child is naturally trusting. Trust is one of the core pillars of “childlike faith.” A child takes things at face value and believes what it is told as the truth.
The ability to trust allows a child to be teachable. Trust allows a child to have a sense of peace about life, others, and itself. Trusting is the quality that gives the child openness to the possibilities of life, others, and itself.

Emotionally healthy response:

I trust my gut feelings. I listen to and act on the quiet “inner voice.” I am aware of people and am able to sense who I can and cannot trust. I view the world as a safe place. I take things at their face value. I am not fooled by the “cover of the book.” I have my own value system by which I sort everything I hear and see. I am able to take in the things that fit and discard the things that do not fit my value system.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I am filled with self-doubt. I am suspicious and skeptical of others’ actions and motives. I struggle with being indecisive. I regret many of my decisions. I am hesitant and cautious about making decisions. I find decisions painful to make. I avoid making decisions until circumstances force me to. I am distrustful of others and myself. I feel as if I never have enough facts. I tend to blame others when things go wrong.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

UNIQUE:

Uniqueness in a child is the quality that connects the child to its own natural spirituality. A child innately knows and is in awe of its own specialness. A child is born with an awareness that no one else is exactly like it.
Being special fills a child with a sense of its own value and worth. Knowledge of its uniqueness gives a child a connection to its true self and its authenticity. Being unique gives a child a sense of pride and dignity. Each child is born knowing it is unique and, therefore, wonderful and rare.

Emotionally healthy response:

I see myself as unique and out-of-the-ordinary. I am aware of my true self and am connected to my authenticity. I have a sense of pride in myself, because I know I am special, wonderful, and valuable. I treat myself with dignity and honor. I know I am beautiful from the inside out. I am able to see my own exceptional qualities. I have a deep admiration for and connection with the Divine in myself.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I see myself as a common, ordinary, and average person. I often feel I am an unattractive and even a homely person. I wonder if something is wrong with me. I see myself as being defective. I have no value of my own, because I measure my value in relationship to my partner, my friends, and/or my career. I feel a sense of shame and guilt. I view myself as unworthy. I have little or no sense of anything Divine within myself.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

VULNERABLE and DEPENDENT:

Vulnerability is a natural state of a child. A child is born completely dependent and in need of others in every way and for everything. A child needs love from and craves interaction with the ones around it.
Vulnerability gives the child the desire to form attachments and make commitments. This natural vulnerability of a child is the soul of intimacy.

Emotionally healthy response:

I am approachable and accessible. I am easy to talk to and receptive to others. I live my life as if it were an open book. I am unguarded in my intimate relationships and have an exciting, monogamous sex life. I am able to form attachments and make commitments in relationships. I have at least two or three long-standing friendships.

My response the majority of the time............................. A

Emotionally unhealthy response:

I have walls around me to protect and shield me from others. I view myself as a private person and am fearful of others knowing my secrets. I isolate myself and withdraw from others or go the opposite way and become enmeshed in another’s life and lose my identity. I fear attachments, yet am terrified of being alone. I am overly proud of my self-sufficiency. I feel I need to be an island and become inaccessible and aloof. I stay with a spouse or partner who mistreats me and/or spend time with people who mistreat me. I have an unsatisfying sex life and/or unsatisfying sexual encounters.

My response the majority of the time............................. B

Before you click the button to have your score add up, first, let me say that everyone is emotionally unhealthy in one way or another. Your emotional health is as a result of the wounds you received on your journey through life. No human being can escape from being wounded. And no one escapes the results of their wounds, the loss of our wonderful child-like traits and qualities. As a result, no one responds in a healthy manner one hundred percent of the time. This is part of the human condition and challenge.

And secondly, any or just one unhealthy response towards people and/or problems and opportunities is potentially harmful to you. In fact, each unhealthy response is in someway a detriment to your success, your peace of mind, and your contentment. So even if the majority of the time you respond in a healthy manner, but frequently respond in an unhealthy manner, that unhealthy response will sabotage what you strive for, will create some havoc, and/or will rob the joy from your life.